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The Cycles of Life

Brian Flanagan • Dec 20, 2022

India, April - November 2022

In this newsletter, Brian Flanagan, Founder Director of Bekind Ireland, shares some of his experiences from his visits to Kolkata in April and November 2022.


Note: Children’s names have been changed in this newsletter for child protection purposes.


Thirty months had passed since my last visit to Kolkata. I was there in November 2019 accompanied by my daughter Katie and her best friend, Lucy. It was such a different time with freedom, socialising with friends, spending lots of time with the children in the Bekind Boys’ Home and volunteering in the stark reality of Kalighat, the home for the dying and destitute. In every aspect it was as up close and as personal as it gets, caring for the poorest of the poor and doing what I, my daughter, her friend and so many international volunteers had been doing for years in reaching out to care for the “unwanted” ones of Kolkata. Little did any of us know how abruptly life was about to change and all the things we took for granted would no longer be possible as the ugly tentacles of the pandemic spread around the world. Within a couple of months Covid-19 and its horror show had begun.

April 2022

It’s 7 April 2022 and I’m back in Kolkata. Were the last two and a half years a bad dream? Kolkata and its citizens, legal or otherwise had been through that bad dream, that nightmare of wave after wave of the mutations of the virus that claimed so many lives of rich and poor. 



Now everything looked normal, vibrant, and as colourful as ever. Hectic, and wonderfully chaotic, this “City of Joy” was wide open once again. Wide open were the arms of my beloved boys in the Bekind Boys’ Home and how broad the Bengali smiles of the children as I arrived to see them in person after such a long time. 


Our ten-year-olds were now thirteen. How many teenagers do we have? The little six-year-olds were nine! And new faces that I had not met before. Our ten second hugs per child (usually three seconds), marked our milestone tenth anniversary of the home. For several of the boys this has been their home since it opened in January 2012. They were all healthy, safe, and well, despite the restrictions and confinement during the previous two years. The care staff led by our home manager, Joydeep, deserve so much credit for their perseverance and unwavering dedication.

Keeping order and sanity during “lockdown”, and I use that world literally, was a mammoth task. School classes had switched to online and we purchased additional laptops to allow some continuity as the Bekind Boys attend four different schools.



My heart lifted to see the children back in their uniforms and off to school the day after I had arrived.

The uniform is worn with a great sense of pride by each child, visually an equaliser of class, caste, and creed. The English medium schooling also equips the students with additional options as they progress through the system of education. English, the international language that can open many doors for the young minds that embrace it.



April in India is hot! Temperatures in excess of 40C were the norm during my stay so pacing oneself is important with lots of hydration a necessity. The cycle aspect of this newsletter resonates with me as I remember the excitement of getting my first racing bike as a ten-year-old from my dad for my birthday. He brought me into Rutland Cycles in Dublin’s city centre and we picked out a gold and black coloured 5 speed bike that cost 35 pounds in 1969. How I treasured it for many years going to school and for leisure use. And in turn, my own children got their freedom and learned the skills of balance. A skill once learnt is never forgotten.


An old Triumph 20 cycle, now an ornament/plant stand, rusting in peace in our back garden ,once carried my tiny daughter on many journeys – a constant reminder of years gone by. The cycle of life has brought her to the marriage this year to the love of her life. 

Back to this year’s cycles with requests from some of our now teenage Bekind Boys who needed transport to get to school. It was off to Sri Ram Krishna Stores in east Kolkata for a triple deal. The poor shopkeeper was nearly in tears as we squeezed every last Rupee out of the deal, including a stand, a carrier and a lock for each bike for an all-in discounted price of under €190 for the three quality Tata cycles!

Now to deliver the said cycles in the 40C heat was our next task. Each recipient with a different background, different location, different circumstances, and differing stories.


Cycle 1

First, Joydeep and I headed north west for a two-and-a-half-hour journey in the direction of Burdwan passing the impressive administration building where the Honourable Chief Minister for the state of West Bengal, Mamata Banerjee presides. She is a formidable lady holding strong with her Trinamool Congress Party which she established in 1998. It is impossible to travel anywhere in Bengal without seeing her image on billboards and posters. I imagine the marketing budget must be considerable.

We arrive at a remote little village where Raju lives, having been restored to his family in 2020. His granny is almost 100 years old and is, without question, the head of the family. Widowed more than sixty years back, she holds a pension from Indian Railways, allowing her to provide for her grand- and great grandchildren. 


Their rural, rented house is in an area known as “the rice bowl “of India, with its fertile land producing crops that feed many millions. The produce is loaded onto trains each day in the nearby station and sold on the streets of Kolkata and beyond.

Granny is so alert and welcomes us to their humble, but spotlessly maintained, home. We learn of her love of birds, her ability to deliver two babies at home in the previous year, her love of family and her fears for their future after she passes. Raju is thrilled with his new bike which will carry him on the twenty-minute journey to and from the local school. At almost 15 years of age, he has grown tall and lean and seems content with family life in rural Bengal. Our educational support will continue for Raju who joined the Bekind Boys Home in 2012. 

We stopped, on our return, not far from Raju’s village for a quick snack. Pulling in on a strip of land between a pond where some children were swimming and the railway line where an old man was sitting outside his shack. He and his wife were drying pumpkin seeds and would eke out a living by selling them in the market. They were delighted when we shared our lunch with them and even happier when we gave a few Rupees for allowing us to park our car beside their home. 

A return to Kolkata is always enriched when reuniting with my friends, the Guptas. Anil was busy at his desk when I arrived and being watched over by his late father’s portrait. It reminded me of the story his Dad told me when I was fortunate to meet the elderly gentleman several years back and his vivid memories as a young man, of the bombing of Kolkata by the Japanese Air Force during the Second World War. He described the roar of the engines and the sight of low flying “silver birds”, most likely Mitsubishi Ki- 21’s which were widely used at that time. He heard massive explosions and ran with his friends in the direction of Kidderpore Docks to witness the death and destruction caused by the Imperial Japanese Army Air Force on 20 December 1942. Sporadic attacks on the city’s infrastructure were to continue until 1944 with more than 500 deaths and multiple injuries reported. 

Cycle 2

Rohit had been in Bekind since he was six years of age. On several occasions I had met his mother who always showed great affection for the child. She was a beautiful young lady and unfortunately due to poverty and an abusive broken marriage had reluctantly placed her son and an older daughter into care.

Tragically, last year Rohit’s mother died and his grandmother applied directly to the Child Welfare Committee (“CWC”) for custody of her grandchildren. Another journey brought Joydeep and I southwest to the village where they lived. Again, I’m surprised how much Rohit has grown and not surprised to see his personality was bigger than ever! He was always full of fun and devilment with a smile as wide as the Hooghly River. 

Eventually, with new bicycle, crossing fields and ditches, we make it to their humble home. It had been badly damaged, like many of the dwellings in the area, during Cyclone Amphan in May of 2020. Two rooms, one where his absent grandmother sleeps and the other shared by Rohit and his sister and a rabbit and a puppy. The animals dragged reluctantly from under the large double bed and proudly put on show. The boy seemed to relish his new found freedom and not attending school had no regard for regular bed times or indeed rising too early either. He was also very descriptive about one of his favourite pastimes which was catching rats which had taken up residence in the ramshackle roof of his house. He would wrap some sackcloth around his hand and poke at the roof until the terrified rodent would fall into a waiting jar. He would quickly screw on the lid and… well I decided not to ask about the final fate of the long-tailed creatures!


I was to learn that his mother, a Hindu, had married a Muslim and there were many rows and family disputes and persecution. She became very unhappy and unable to cope. Sadly, during Covid-19, in the little room where the brother and sister sleep, she took her life. Her picture is on the wall looking down on her children, the rabbit and the puppy. 

Cycle 3

Another boy, Sanjay, who grew up in Bekind from a young age, had been restored to his family in the Howrah District. His mother had remarried and up to the pandemic her husband had been employed in a manufacturing position at a local factory. Unfortunately, like many businesses, it was forced to cease trading during that time when everything ground to a halt. His step-father is doing his best now going from place-to-place selling tea from a container on his own bicycle.


Sanjay’s Mam does some dressmaking and alterations to try and make ends meet. When we met tears flowed as she was very anxious about money and trying to survive from day to day and to provide for her teenage son and little girl. I ordered a pretty Indian dress for my daughter to give a little business. Bekind will continue to cover the boy’s educational costs and the new cycle brought a smile to Sanjay’s face. He was dangerously wobbly at first so I suggested plenty of practice in the laneways near his house before venturing out to school on the busy roads! 

October/November 2022

In late October, my wife, son, and I returned to Kolkata with our first adult volunteer group. Some were to experience a first visit to India; others were returning now as young adults having previously been part of our school-going teenage immersion groups in previous years.


The summer/autumn months had been busy with many fundraising events, and the proceeds, for which we are so grateful, have really made a difference in meeting our budget. Each adult covered their flight, accommodation, and expenses. Arriving to more comfortable temperatures, we were blessed with clear blue skies and around 30 degrees of heat by day. A familiarisation of the city on day one and the now obligatory walk across the huge cantilever Howrah Bridge and a visit the train station of the same name which caters for over one million passengers daily, making it the biggest in all India!

On then for the group to be introduced or re-introduced to our children and staff in the Bekind Boys’ Home. On arrival, I was somewhat concerned to see two uniformed guards outside the entrance. Wondering what was the necessity for all this security, we got closer to these serious looking young men only to discover that it was two of our boys who had enlisted for experience in the Junior Kolkata Police Cadets! How grown up and official they looked in their impeccable, smart uniforms. They receive training and instruction every Friday afternoon when school finishes. They boys were so impressed to learn that one member of our volunteer group, Amy, had just qualified as a Garda in the Irish police force.

They were all so excited and everyone enjoyed the next couple of days together in a small resort outside Kolkata that we have used to treat the children on several occasions over the years. Cricket, football, swimming, boating, ziplining, target-shooting and having good food and lots of fun were compulsory.


Our adult group were to visit several of the Hope Foundation homes and projects and were so impressed at the scale and reach of this wonderful organisation. Our visit coincided with that of the lovely Rachel Duffy, International Rose of Tralee, who was spending a week in Kolkata with Hope. 

Late one evening, several of our group returned from the Night Round with the Hope team who call and give support and medical assistance to the many families living on the streets and in the slums. They had to process so much as they had witnessed scenes which I am sure will remain etched in their memories for a long time to come. In one of the many shacks beside the railway tracks in Nimtala they met the mother of a six-year-old boy who had fallen in front of a train. His serious injuries had necessitated the amputation of his leg and arm. He was operated on by surgeons in the Hope Hospital and had been given prosthetic limbs, the child seemed to be coping well despite everything.

Three of our girls recognised a boy, Suraj, who had spent five years in Bekind Boys’ Home and another five in another Hope run home. They informed me that he was back living on the streets with his parents and four-year-old sister. I was shocked to hear this and had been under the impression that his family had a rented room to live in before he returned to them earlier this year.


And yes, it was true as I was to witness a few days later, after most of our group had returned to Ireland. Margaret or “Maggie Auntie” as the children affectionately refer to her, was staying on for several weeks in India and we joined the Night Round team visiting families by the ghats where a festival was taking place. The area seemed transformed from deprivation to dedication in worshiping the Hindu gods, with hundreds of little oil lamps stretching along the banks of the Hoogly, creating a magical atmosphere with many thousands enjoying the party. Bell ringers in temples clanged as the faithful bowed in worship and reverence. The fires from the ghats burning the deceased, relentless flames releasing souls on their journey, on their next cycle of another life.

Amidst the many families living on the footpaths on one of the main avenues was my boy Suraj, his beaming smile welcoming us to his family “place” on the street, his bed was a sheet of plywood atop a tricycle cart next to where his parents and little sister slept in a canvas covered dwelling. I could not help but feel the past decade of shelter and education by Bekind and Hope had just been lost and that this boy, on the eve of his sixteenth birthday, was in danger of being consumed by what surrounded him. I knew from messages he’d sent me from his father’s mobile that he was not safe and referred to alcohol and drug abuse which was common place in that area.

Again, it was through the Hope social workers and their contact with the CWC, that permission was granted to have Suraj returned to a Hope protection home. I arrived the next day to accompany him back to safety and sighed a great sigh of relief. The boy’s mother encouraged him, with wagging finger, to study hard. His dad, with a tear in his eye, watched us leave and wished him well. I tried to put myself in his place and to feel how he felt, a man who works hard driving a delivery van every night, taking his four-year-old little girl with him so he could mind her safely and yet not being able to provide properly for his family – a very hard life. 


Ironically, the little girl, if taken into care before the age of six, would have to be put up for adoption because of the current system. She will remain with her parents for now at least. 

Riya

Another little girl, Riya, has Cerebral Palsy and lives in a rural area an hour outside Kolkata. She has had an Irish sponsor for over ten years. Anne, Riya’s sponsor and a member of our group, was to get to meet her but I had kept it a surprise until the final day before she returned home to Dublin. We visited Sanchar, an outreach group we have supported over the years, and made our way to the village where Riya lives. The bus could only go so far so we walked for about twenty minutes until we reached the village. Anne admitted she was giddy with the excitement of meeting the child. With only a few metres to go, Anne took a tumble and fell. The thud of her head hitting the concrete path sent shivers up my spine and lifting her up, hoping she had not broken her teeth or nose, was one of those moments I don’t want to re-live. Thankfully nothing broken but two big bumps were appearing on her bloodied forehead. Scuffed knees and a badly cut finger didn’t deter our Anne as she sat on a plastic chair with half the village around her. She kept repeating “I’m ok. I’m ok”, as the colour drained from her face and my wife and I wondered how we were going to get her back from the middle of nowhere.

Riya was wheeled out and it was such a special moment as they held hands amidst the chaos at the crossroad. I put my cap on Anne for fear she would frighten the child. 


After some time, an auto-rickshaw arrived and ferried us back to the main road. Then, on by bus to the Hope Hospital for treatment. 

Raj

And so as 2022 draws to a close and the season of goodwill is upon us a new cycle of life has begun for a little boy of eight years who was placed with us a few days back. He had run away from home and got on a train which brought him to Sealdah Station. Rescued by social workers, it turns out that he had been physically tortured by his stepmother over several years. He had been shackled by the ankle many times, and if he was bold the stepmother would use a red hot poker on him. His little body is covered with the evidence. My blood ran cold on hearing this story as it’s hard to believe this can actually happen now and that such evil exists but it does unfortunately. Little Raj is now safe and away from the physical abuse he has suffered, he’s been restless and uneasy but knowing the counselling, love and care he will receive from staff and his new family of big brothers in Bekind Boys’ Home. He will enjoy and be happy in this next cycle of his young life.

Thank you for supporting these precious children.


Brian

Brian Flanagan

Founder Director

Bekind Ireland

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